Islam Guidance

Verse34

(34) الرِّجَالُ قَوَّامُونَ عَلَى النِّسَاء بِمَا فَضَّلَ اللّهُ بَعْضَهُمْ عَلَى بَعْضٍ وَبِمَا أَنفَقُواْ مِنْ أَمْوَالِهِمْ

فَالصَّالِحَاتُ قَانِتَاتٌ حَافِظَاتٌ لِّلْغَيْبِ بِمَا حَفِظَ اللّهُ وَاللاَّتِي تَخَافُونَ نُشُوزَهُنَّ فَعِظُوهُنَّ

وَاهْجُرُوهُنّ َ فِي الْمَضَاجِعِ وَاضْرِبُوهُنَّ فَإِنْ أَطَعْنَكُمْ فَلاَ تَبْغُواْ عَلَيْهِنَّ سَبِيلاً إِنَّ اللّهَ كَانَ عَلِيًّا كَبِيرًا

Section 6
Disagreement and reconciliation between husband and wife
Superiority of men overwomen - Wife's perverseness and desertion to effect - Duty to Allah inculcates all the other duties - Niggardliness and hypocrisy condemned
34. " Men have authority over women because Allah has made some of them to excel others and because they spend out of their property (for the support of women). Therefore, the good women are obedient, guarding the unseen as Allah has guarded. And (as to) those (women) on whose part you fear desertion, admonish them, and avoid them in beds and beat them; then if they obey you, do not seek a way against them; verily Allah is Ever-High, Ever-Great. "

Commentary :
Guardianship in the System of a Family
A family is a small unit of the society, similar to a large assembly of people, a family must have a single proper leader. The reason is that a leadership upon a family accomplished by several of men and women in common, is of no vail. In this form of leadership, either of husband or wife must be the chief of the family and the other should be his/her assistant and under his/her governance. Here, by this verse, the Qur'an clearly announces that the guardianship of the family must be given to the man of the family. It says:
" Men have authority over women ... "
Of course, the purpose of this statement is not a sense of casting transgression, inequity and aggression; but the aim is producing a single, fairly regular leadership regarding to the necessary consultations and responsibilities.
The second section of the verse is divided into two parts. In the first part it denotes that this guardianship is for some superiorities that, (for the sake of regularity of the society), Allah has assigned for some people comparing some others. It says:
" ... because Allah has made some of them to excel others ... "
And, in the second part of the statement it implies that this guardianship is for the sake of the responsibilities that men undertake along the side of financial payments due to women and family members. It says:
" ... and because they spend out of their property (for the support of women), ..."
Then, it adds that: with respect to the duties women undertake at home, they are divided into two groups:
The first group are those pious women who, because of the rights Allah has set for them, are humble and protect the secrets and rights of their husband when the husband is absent:
" ... therefore, the good women are obedient, guarding the unseen as Allah has guarded, ... "
That is, always, and at the absense of their husbands in particular, they commit no treachery whether from the point of property, or honour, or protecting the family secrets, and the credit and personality of their husbands. They also truely follow their duties and responsibilities to fulfil them well.
The second group are the women who usually refuse to do their duties. Thus, the signs of disagreement and discord are seen in them. Confronting such women, men have some duties which they must follow step by step. At the first stage, it says:
" ... And (as to) those (women) on whose part you fear desertion, admonish them, ... "
For the second stage, it says:
" ... and avoid them in beds, ... "
And, in the third stage, when the discord, disobedience, and the state of heedlessness toward the duties and responsibilities the limits are transgressed, and the wife severely continues stubbornness and law breaking, so that neither admonishment nor separation from bed, nor heedlessness of man unto her, has any effect and avail, there remains no way save harshness. So, it says:
" ... and beat them; ... "
It is certain, of course, that if one of these stages affects positively and the woman starts doing her duties, the man has no right to hurt her under any pretext. That is why, immediately after stating this phrase, the Qur'an continues saying:
" ... then if they obey you, do not seek a way against them; ... "
At the end of the verse, it warns men again that they should not abuse their position of guardianship in the family. They ought to think of Allah Whose Power is above all powers. It says:
" ... verily Allah is Ever-High, Ever-Great. "

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